Ok maybe I should say “half time I have clicked the rude button the person mentions/complains about their rude mark” 
I also see many other times people speak up about rude marks when it wasn’t me, so I can’t be the only one!
On other forums I’m on there is no rude button but you’re not allowed to publicly discuss moderation/removed posts/bans, so that helps keep the threads free from “why did this get removed? … this is not fair … i did nothing wrong … who was it” kind of stuff.
Hi everyone,
I understand that it’s frustrating when you get an apparently unjustified rudeness point. And the very fact that you care about your rudeness level is an excellent sign that you are indeed a respectful and friendly BLF member.
However, while there is always a small amount of “noise” and illegitimate hits on the Rude! button, it is surprisingly free of wide-scale abuse. For example, I have an admin page that shows me the name and rudeness score of all the users that currently have points. Here’s where it stands now (names not shown for obvious reasons):
So there are currently 4 users that got Rude! hits whose points haven’t expired yet. Of those, there is obviously one huge outlier that I already talked to via PM about the problem and will continue to watch to see if changes are made. Two other users in that list made posts that I would also consider to be genuinely rude. And another user in that list participated in a public argument, which always makes you a target for people getting offended. So the current set of Rude! button points is spot-on.
The button in question is labeled Rude!. I had to call it something. But I think people tend to forget that the post on how to use the Rude! button defines rudeness as more than just the typical grumpy, insulting, foul-mouthed post that almost everyone would consider to be rude. Specifically, this rule is often forgotten:
The main BLF Rules also reiterate the same thing very clearly:
So this is where a lot of the Rude! hits come from. Even if the post and/or user is friendly, it is against the rules and considered as rude when somebody participates in an escalating argument or responds to a rude post. So please make a concerted effort to not respond publicly to rude posts. Just drop it, give the grumpy-insulting-foul-obscene user the cold shoulder, and move on, or change the subject with kitten pictures.
Thanks a lot to the vast majority of our users here that really do care about getting along and who are usually friendly and helpful to everyone.
It did something to OP and to me enough that this thread exists.
I like puppies, not kittens!
Marked as Rude! 
I should have know I was opening a can of worms with that one. 
Not necessarily. If continue, then at least people know, and can make and form judgments.
…or hit the Rude! button and let SB deal with it instead! 
I’ve found that everyone truly has different opinions about almost everything. And everyone approaches life differently. Therefore, everyone deals with conflict differently as well. The Rude! button is there for those who wish to use it. And according to SB, it is being effective and not too much abused. If you’d rather talk it out in the open, I’d personally say go for it! One of the beautiful things about BLF is that we do have the privilege (and responsibility) to self-moderate. But don’t get caught up in arguments, because those are against the rules, as SB reminded us all just a few posts ago. ^ Remember that “self moderate” means that you must “moderate” your “self” not others.
I’m the one with 6 rude marks
Careful, Joshk. You might get a point just for asking that… :innocent:
I think the use of the “rude” flag should require the individual to give a reason.
I win!
Photoshop?
Hah no, I press F12 and edit the html/css
I do know how to photoshop though, it’s just a lot more effort and not as genuine as editing the web page itself.
Anyway, thanks for the laugh I have no idea how to do that html/css thingy.
PS - I am now extremely curious about who has 48 points…
Is that maybe a “total” or something?
Maybe it’s someone in another thread that I just haven’t been reading?
I have no idea who got 48. At least I’m not the top guy. lol!
I never knew how any of that worked until I started teaching myself html/css.
Fun stuff to trick people with
I don’t think I’ve ever even posted 48 times in 24 hours - ever! So, either the person is being both Spammy AND Rude! or lots of people are marking the same post(s) (indicating that the posts are VERY Rude!).
Nope, those are current points. It was actually a bit higher in the past couple of days, but (s)he has calmed down and the points are slowly vanishing. No sense in speculating though, in fact I’d prefer that everyone didn’t, because if we pick a name as “most likely to have 48 rudeness points” in a sort of cruel mock election, we’ll definitely have an offended BLFer.