This is another thread where there was also a topic of discussion with flaming and newish members about a certain thread getting out of hand and several people have given some insightful and different perspectives.
To my credit, I did not label the latest troublemaker a troll, and if I had known that he was, I would not have confronted him.
I think it's natural to defend yourself when someone attacks you, but if I confront people that are up to no good less, maybe I'll be attacked less.
And I do tend to be high strung when people repeatedly attack me.
See if you're not stressed out when a bunch of people unnecessarily attack you for defending BLF.
+1 to all of these comments.
And when someone apparently appoints themself BLF Moderator and breaks numerous rules to call out someone publicly for breaking or allegedly breakinging a ruleā¦. something is inherently wrong.
It is especially sadly comical when this is āsupposedlyā done to protect the integrity of BLF. Give me a breakā¦ :person_facepalming:
Then they use thinly disguised words such as āa-hole, ice-holes, etc.ā and think they are blameless. Calling a member āEinsteinā in a condescending manner.
It does not washā¦ā¦
The excuses donāt wash, the reasons donāt wash, nothing washes. They, by their lack of discernment & people skills in a particular situation; have not only created a problemā¦ but also escalate it to a much worse level as they continue to righteously defend their mistakes.
And it is especially disappointing to me when a āself appointed moderatorā calls someone out in a confrontational manner & then cries all kind of foul when the called out person makes a simple reply. :person_facepalming: . It utterly amazes me.
IMOā¦ā¦ we would all be much better off if we worried less about being āoffendedā by every little thing and concentrated on ourselves instead.
I thought it was a good idea at the time.
Why allow over 900 f-words to litter BLF?
Of course hindsight is 20/20.
If I knew it was going to to blow up like it did, I wouldn't have said anything publicly.
Apparently I'm terrible at deescalating bad situations and I should leave that work to Mr. Admin.
No need to point fingers, the last flare-up is under control. The more important matters are 1) preventing future conflicts, and 2) identifying and banning malicious offenders.
ā¦ā¦ A kind word in private or possibly in public possibly would have achieved a better outcomeā¦. weāll never know. 
Yepā¦ Hindsight is 20/20 ā¦. learn from it & move on.
And if you get right down to itā¦ā¦ there are very, very, few true TROLLS on BLF.
Alsoā¦. Nev is not a Trollā¦ā¦ nor is he a constant troublemaker.
He, like the rest of us; sometimes does, says, or posts something that someone may not like. So whatā¦ we all do it from time to time. Canāt we just relax a bit??
His manner & sense of humor may differ from someā¦ but so what?? Do we label anyone a troll who does not fit in our particular box??
Nev has an avatar atm that I personally think is hilariousā¦ but that is just my opinion. Others will love it & others will hate itā¦. that is their opinion.
Who cares either wayā¦ move on.
Everything is not politicalā¦ā¦ 
Thank you teacher ,
Iām learning to use different words from now on ,I didnāt realise some folk were so intolerant of others & their language & their humour, who would of thought that a simple little word like snowflake would cause so much misery to some , itās my fault ,I shouldnāt assume all people are blessed with a good sense of humour 
Does my bum look big in this avatar?
Yeah, but TBH, your bum always looked big. 
My feeling has been bent :cry:
My pleasure yaā ole reprobate!! . 
:face_with_monocle:
Yeahā¦. sadly it appears that is the way some of the world is going.
Words that used to mean one thing now mean something totally different. :person_facepalming: ā¦ Tis sad. :cry:
But in real lifeā¦ā¦
ā¦ I & most of the people I know missed the political correctness memo.
We stick with the basic values we were raised with.
You changed your avatar!! I like that one, it reminds me of the festive Holiday & Christmas Season. :+1:
As far as your ābumā?? Beats meā¦.
No, my avatar disappeared, I presume sb removed it on behalf of someone else , I hope this one is good to stay, it does look Christmasy ,Iām feeling very festive.
I hope itās not too religiousy.
Banggood has some on sale, Iāll bet M4dM4x has a coupon somewhere
I like it. It looks like Christmas Star decorations I have. They are bigger of course
PSā¦ Just noticed you had a bent feeling. 
Rememberā¦ I have a couple of spares if you need one.
I think Iāll wait for the bogof coupon
bogof = buy one get one free.
Thanks mate but Iām ok , I just straightened it out , I used a big hammer.
This 6 branches suriken covered with blood seems a bit offensive/deadly but definitely looks cool.
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Your welcomeā¦. I understand. It is always best to recycle those feelings if yaā can.
If it is really bent badā¦. use some heat from an acetyl torch as you hammer.
Itāll straighten right out.
I try not to say too much in these threads, lest it could be construed as escalating, but I agree with very much of what has been said above.
I will add, however, I find the people who canāt just let things go, and always have to have the last word, sometimes even well after the subject has been dropped or changed, far more annoying than the so-called ātrollsā.
Yes, exactly. Thatās why the ādrop the subjectā rule is so incredibly important.
Please be assured that is precisely what I do almost on a daily basis. But thereās a huge difference between somebody who is having a bad day or genuinely doesnāt understand the rules, and a malicious troublemaker. I will only continue to gently remind or reprimand users until their real character and intentions become apparent.
I care. BLF is not meant to be a place for people to pile on others or flaunt their most offensive traits. There are plenty of forums and social platforms where such toxic behavior is tolerated or even encouraged. Here, itās prohibited. No ifs or buts about it. If such behavior has cropped up here at any given point in a certain thread, itās either because I was unaware of the situation or else I was in the process of evaluating/moderating the situation as I described above.