R U OK?

Man what a paradoxal topic this is.
So sad, saddening, harsh and bringing tears to my eyes.
So nice it is here and another proof of the special place BLF is

:beer: cheers people, to life!

and off to find that nice Belgian Kwak beer, the real glass has survived the move and I rarely use it, swiping some tears away this is a good moment for it
edit, cheers Kwak in proper glass lighted by modded SRK with diffuser and Astrolux S3 in front

I’ve lost my share, including my best friend of 23 years who was more brother to me than my own brother whom I love dearly. There is always a hole in the hearts left behind which never quite heals, but you learn to live with it somehow. I own my own life to someone who recognized the clinical depression I was diagnosed with and treated for. I was about one minute or less away from my own self-demise. I can’t explain it to you, there was and is no logic in it, no reason or cause for it but it was about to happen. That is how this disease is, and but for somebody caring and knowing I would not be here now. And were it not for one hell of a therapist showing me how to better handle my life I’d still be on meds for it. It’s not life-threatening any more but it’s always a problem for me. It’s my personal demon and I’ll be damned if it’s going to whip me. And many of you here have helped me through my bad days without ever knowing it. I appreciate that deeply.

Yes I care- I owe that to everybody. I’ll be here to listen and help anyone that I can. If I see someone having problems I’ll find out what I can do to help. I have to because I don’t want anyone to go through what I’ve been through from both sides of this. So if there is anyone who is not OK, you’ve got a friend here, all you need to do is let me know you’d like to talk. Just you and me, nobody else will know anything.

Phil

Phil, I’m beginning to think nobody else knows anything anyway. :stuck_out_tongue:

:smiley:

Thanks!

Interesting glass you got there….

Dale, I’ve lived an extremely varied and adventurous life. Unlike many folks, if I dreamed it, I made it happen. Now my only remaining dreams are so expensive I’ll never see them realized and that makes it hard to keep going on some days. But we go on anyway, knowing that the darkness will wane even if it never goes away. Maybe we just get more used to it. At least that’s something.

Phil

Thanks EDSG for bringing up such an important issue.

U ROK!

Thank you everydaysurvivalgear for posting this. I didn’t know there was a day devoted to this but what a great idea. I’ve lost a few friends along the way myself. Reaching out like this is an excellent idea. As was said, some people hide depression very well. A phone call or message out of the blue from an old friend or family member can be all it takes to give someone in a terrible place time to take a second look at such horribly dark thoughts ands see a ray of hope where there was none moments before.

Well done friend. Truly in BLF spirit. This is an excellent group of caring people. I speak from personal experience when I say that a person in pain can find comfort right here on this forum. I know I have…

Cheers.

Yes everything is going good.

Good to hear. And welcome to BLF!

My uncle passed away this morning, a day after his 95th birthday. He had a great life and was only sick a couple of days before he died. It’s still depressing since he’s the last out of the “adults” to go.

My uncle and I way back in the mid 1950’s. I’ll miss him dearly.

It is a very good idea. Thanks for introducing it here everydaysurvivalgear. Depression is silent, and victims can slip away into the background unnoticed.

I can think of at least 3 people I have known who killed themselves, one from school, and two work colleagues. Andrew, Hazel and Dennis. All full of life at times, their problems not shared.

I have been on the brink myself a few times, first when I was 16 and didn’t feel like I had a life of my own, and more recently, when it felt like I didn’t matter. These days I am much more stable, but life can get you down very easily, a string of problems can suck the joy out of things without warning.
If anyone needs to chat I at least can say I understand how it feels to be at that point. So many people are quick to voice an opinion that is unthinking and makes things worse. What really matters is validation, having others understand and not feeling isolated.

Sorry to here Glenn!

He is in a better place now.

Did you scan some old family photos? Its good to keep them digital.

Thanks Chris. All my photos are scanned and backed up in the cloud and on external hard drives

Sorry for your loss.

Great picture and I would hope even better memories.

My Aunt’s Birthday was also yesterday. She would have been 96.She was a warm, kind and loving soul. Her and My Uncle never had kids,so me and my Brothers were a bit spoiled when we visited!

Thanks Wolfdog. Coming from a very small family, it hit me pretty hard even though he had a great life. He devorced many years ago and never had any kids. My mother’s twin sister lived in a home due to mental illness most of her adult life. Needless to say, she never had kids as well. So it’s just me, my sister, brotherinlaw, and 2 nephews that are left.

Sorry to hear of your loss @atbglenn :frowning: While I have many people related to me, I have less than ten personal friends and family which are any real part of my life. When you lose one of those it hurts.

I’ve been slowly climbing out of the hole of depression. This episode has been another long one but I’m OK and slowly rebuilding life again. My best to all here on BLF!

Phil

My condolences Glenn.

My Dad’s birthday is in 10 days, he’ll be 89. I know he probably doesn’t have all that much time left and it’s a weight… feels so odd getting older myself and feeling like 30 yr olds are still kids. I can only imagine what the true elders must feel like, in these times.

Thanks for reminding me that I need to pester him and make him want to tear me a new one so he’ll feel young again… :wink: [think I’ll go mess with the electronic seat settings in his car now, maybe screw up the mirrors…oooh! I know! put the old dead cells back in his remote control! :smiley: ]

actually you shouldn’t be banned, rather tracked closely

Argh politics here too…