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Lifes disasters seem to follow me around.

So after my enjoyable trip to the eastern side of Canada, i come home to a financial disaster.,. As many know my ex & i had split up, but now she has run a debt of 25K+ grand plus on a consolidated loan/line of Credit than my name is on while i was visting family on that trip, (because of her gambling addition..
So now i am forced to begin plans to liquidate things & down-size, and put my house on the real-estate market. (I am planning to list it in the coming spring) So with all this mess, i am having to down-size my flashlight & lantern collection along with other assets to help keep my head above the water so to speak. I will post a list of what i am selling soon when i get time to inventory it all. I will offer them here before i post them to the local buy-and-sell websites for public.
I will still be active on BLF regardless every chance i can get, and will still be dedicated to working with the small team we have, & pushing to make the BLF lantern project a reality & to get it rolling into production.

- Den / DBSARlight

That Canadian flashlight guy & Lantern Guru -Den / DBSARlight

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Sorry to hear that, I hope things work out for you… Sad

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Wow that is some bad luck, I’m feeling real sorry for you.

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Real sorry to hear that and hope it gets all worked out somehow.  My friend is in a similar situation where his wife ran away with 100k and gambled it all away in just a few days.

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Sorry to hear that man.

On a brighter note, my wife has around 100k in student debt we are trying to pay down. If she were smart, she’d leave me for someone better looking and stick me with half the debt Ughh

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Sorry to hear about your situation, DBSAR. Hope you’ll find a solution to everything and let me know if there is anything I can do to help (I work in finance and know a little bit here and there. I don’t know anything about relationships/divorces though!).
Because I am a flashlight beginner I won’t be able to buy any more lights, but I would be keen to see your creations and hope everything will turn around for you quickly.

All the best!

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Here in my state once the two parties live separately they are considered separated and all debt or contracts accumulated after that day is on the individual. Once one person moves out with intent to seperate, from that day the other is not responsible for anything the other does.
I really hate to hear the bad news DB. I know your country’s laws are different and I assume you have already spoke to a lawyer to advise you. Sick

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That sucks to say it simply…. Angry

Where can I donate to help you?!!

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thijsco19 wrote:
That sucks to say it simply.... Angry Where can I donate to help you?!!

 

Not a bad idea 

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If you move to Ontario, CALIFORNIA you can get a job at maglite and make it easier for me to buy more lights from you. Win-win!!! Of course you’ll be feeding my addiction which will result in me having an ex…hmmm. Win-win?

My brother in law is now my ex-bro-in law because of the same thing. Never paid child support for his kids but he did win Big once and bought his 2 daughters honda accords that were only a year old. At least he’s trying

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That’s sad to hear!

If it’s unevitable to sell some of your lights, we are more then happy to buy some of your lights.

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a regular symptom of flasholism Big Smile

“Flasholism is the most severe form of flashlight use and involves the inability to manage your flashlight use habits. It is also commonly referred to as flashlight use disorder. Flashlight use disorder is organized into three categories: mild, moderate and severe. Each category has various symptoms and can cause harmful side effects. If left untreated, any type of flashlight use can spiral out of control.”

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Awww Man, That is a drag…. hope things get better soon.

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“ DBSAR “ It is good to share these experiences, your not alone. At least here you have many Comrades to lean on. Beer

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Sorry to hear that Den/DBSAR!

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I feel for you. That said, I’m glad I never married.

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Damn… and They™ (bank?) let that stand??

I’d look into hiring a lowyer to sue her into oblivion, if not file criminal charges.

I’d probably be tempted to sell her body-parts to recoup the bux, too.

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What a disaster Sad . I hope you have good luck getting your finances back on track, and Thumbs Up that you keep trying to get the lantern done Smile

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Maybe go seek legal advice? If you can prove you were split up then that $25k might not be your problem at all, just hers.
Either way you must sever all ties with her asap if she is going to continue gambling.

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Ya know, loaning money to gamble is called loan sharking. Illegal. Family member got out of paying gambling debts with that defense. Of course it took a lawyer and a few years to make it go away. It was in excess of $100k though.

Sorry to hear about your bad fortune. If there is anything we can do to help. Just hollar my friend.

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Sorry to hear that DBSAR. Things can only get better, right?

I’d rather use my flashlight around the house than turn on the lights.

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Hey.

It’s only money. and not to much at that. be thankful yo got to it and blocked any more losses .
(You did. didn’t you!)

Br thankful you only got caught with that amount believe me.
See a lawyer, and just get on with your life hey.

we live in Australia. and mt wife loves gambling. But she can afford it. She owned a Bingo business b4 we retired and sold it.
You wouldn’t believe some of the story’s she tells. Pokies and Bingo. and horses etc.

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Holy crap, I hope you can find a way through this!

It sounds like there may be some ideas posted above in case you haven’t already explored those… but mostly I hope you’re doing okay and your luck will take a turn for the better.

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Wait, this sounds like loan sharking.

I hope all goes well for you.

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BlueSwordM wrote:
Wait, this sounds like loan sharking.

I hope all goes well for you.

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Really sorry to hear Den. Take care mate.

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Sorry to hear. Keep your chin up.

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As many know my ex & i had split up, but now she has run a debt of 25K+ grand plus on a consolidated loan/line of Credit than my name is on while i was visting family on that trip, (because of her gambling addition..

I have no idea about Canadian law, but in many states if the debt was incurred after the split was made then said debt belongs solely to the partner responsible for creating it.

This is something you definitely need to discuss with your attorney.

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Hi DBSAR,

I have only been on this forum for a very short time, but I gather you are one of the most liked and respected members.
I can only wish you well, and hope everything improves for you in the future.

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Aw man, I’m really sorry to hear this. Thanks for letting us know. Glad to hear you’re taking it in stride and finding ways to move forward. We’ll see you around here!

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atbglenn wrote:
I feel for you. That said, I’m glad I never married.

Marriage is a gamble. You can win big and lose big. With 40% to 50% ending in divorce or worse, it is tough making it work.
My wife is my High School Sweetheart, known her since the 4th grade but never dated until my senior yr. We have separated 3 times, once for 2yrs, but slowly started dating again. This August 31st will be our 40th together. Marriage is never perfect, but I would do it all again, but with different decisions of course. There are times I wish I had not married and my wife feels the same way too, to be free and single and younger, LOL …. But when you see her with her grandchildren, you know that’s not really true. Life is like Poker, you have to play the cards your delt, the trick is to keep on smiling in the rain and sunshine….

I am Happy for you “atbglenn” and a lot of us envy you and respect that decision to not marry. Beer
I know for a fact there would be many many more flashlights on the shelf if I were single BeerBeer

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Sorry to hear that. Sad . Hang in there….. Thumbs Up

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