Hi everyone, I recognize that there are occasionally problems with misuse of the Rude! button, but such cases are the exceptions rather than the rule. At the moment, the amount of all BLF users that currently have rudeness points is 4. Of them, SubSailorVet is one, as he mentioned here, and his is indeed a case of abuse where another user is mad at him and is misusing the button on him. That user can be easily identified and will be dealt with accordingly by me. As for the other three users that have rudeness points, one of them just has 1 point for a post they made in this thread that was not at all rude, so Iām willing to chalk that up to a joke or somebody trying to prove their point that it hurts when you get a Rude! hit. (Please donāt do that.) The other two users that currently have a rudeness score made posts that were clearly and indisputably rude. So there is no wide-scale abuse of the button, and the system is of great use to me when moderating in order to determine whether posts that I believe to be rude are also perceived as such by other users.
There was also an interesting use of the Rude! button just the other day when a vendor accidentally posted a screenshot with customersā personal information, probably while I was offline and unable to respond quickly. But that post was quickly and gracefully removed by other users that hit the Rude! button on it, which was definitely the appropriate action.
I think its rude for any of us to post in a thread about rude people wanting to take away a rude button, and rude people using the rude button :partying_face:
Speaking of rude, what happened to the please dont quote quote thread?
Saw thatā¦ It was marked with 4 new posts that I could not see when I noticed. Was wondering if one of them 4 posts was the culprit, or the general nonsense that led up to the last 4 posts lol
Personally, I donāt usually care which words people useā¦ I care more about the underlying message. I mean, slurs are still to be avoided, particularly ones with a bloody history, but common āfour letter wordsā seem pretty harmless. And some pretty harmful things can be said with flowery words.
I recognize that goes against both local convention and mainstream culture though, so itās generally a good idea to follow that instead. As they say, when in Rome, do as the Romans doā¦
ā¦ even if the Romans were invasive imperialist jerks.
I had no intent to belittle anyone, I was only suggesting to let it stay so people that wonāt call someone out can get the last word. I guess my wording made it sound belittling. I call it how I see it and donāt sugar coat what I say. Sorry if I offended anyone.
Only SB knows for sure, but I get the impression that a lot of the ārudeā points are sent from people who arenāt actively participating in the discussion. Itās a way to let someone know to be more careful without turning the thread into an off-topic discussion about etiquette.
Private messages can be used for this too, but it doesnāt happen as often and doesnāt give SB the same visibility into issues he might need to resolve. PMs can also be somewhat risky (or at least socially awkward) for the person asking for better behavior, and can easily escalate into disputes. Escalation is far less likely with the current system, aside from people occasionally complaining about the system itself.
The rude system can be abused, but the consequences are much more harsh than for someone merely making obnoxious posts. It gets SBās attention and carries a high risk of getting the abuser banned, because it demonstrates harmful intent.
Itās not perfect, but it seems better than how things were before. The system was added because threads kept going into angry death spiralsā¦ and that is much less common now.
