Poll: Should We Do Away With Anonymous Rude Marks?

Straight forward is good. Straight forward and polite is even better.

I believe SB posted that in the original rudeness thread: [2016-06-11] Crackdown on rudeness

Anonymous to us, revealed to SB so that he can deal with people who abuse it.

Edit: SB responded to this thread earlier and said the same here: Poll: Should We Do Away With Anonymous Rude Marks? - #158 by sb56637

Probably did… Correction… seems he did. I’m just getting old(er) & forgetful it seems :smiley:
What was it someone called it/said they had, in another thread? CRS ???
Anyway…
I think I have the beginning of early onset (yeah, 65 is early… :wink: ) CRS. :open_mouth:

Can’t Remember Stuff…… :smiley: .
Either way, it is what it is; whether I remember it or not.
But……… I am very glad he can. :wink:

That’s what I used to do, until people on this forum got very upset with me :smiley:

Anything sugar is not so popular these days. Less sugar, more exercise… You know… :stuck_out_tongue:

Well… some people seem to be sugar addicts. But, SB has already said numerous times since the Rude! system was implemented, that it is working as he intended and there is no large scale abuse. And, although I don’t like getting Rude! points (especially since I don’t think I deserve them) the truth is that the Rude! system is more of a soft reminder to us of how our words are received here. The real enforcement is handled directly by SB, as it always has been. And he’s really good at it, IMHO. This is the best forum I’ve ever participated in!

I believe no one but sb can see who is making the rude reports. Which I believe is the beauty of the system. Anyone can “complain” about a post and not be identified by the general membership. Being able to ID the complainant by members at large, especially the person being reported, will too often lead to unwarranted recriminations against by the offender. And then everything escalates into forum hell, which is what we’re trying to avoid or prevent. As sb mentioned too, our rude reports helps him sort out whether something he finds possibly offensive is offensive to the general membership.

+1

Two-way “policing” should help balance things out.

I recently learned that some people think I’m kind of scary. So… it’s probably good that there’s a way for people to anonymously tell me I crossed a line. They might not do anything at all if it wasn’t anonymous.

As for calling it like one sees it, and not sugar-coating words, it sounds awfully close to being rude on purpose and being proud of it. Escalating by choice… which is kind of why the ‘rude’ button exists. Too many people were doing that, and it quickly turned into a dumpster fire.

As mentioned a few posts ago, “respect went a long way and they cooperated when I was respectful” is typically a better default style. It helps people interact as rational agents instead of falling back on old primal habits which haven’t really evolved away yet.

Well said!

I know you're a goddess and all, but I don't find you scary.

Also, I don't remember you ever crossing the rudeness line.

Keep up the good work!

Read this somewhere

“A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect”

SB set the boundaries, we should respect them, as we are in his house :innocent:

Cheers David

You should see the first draft of my posts. :stuck_out_tongue:

Yep… I think you are correct. Kinda what we figured out HERE …… :+1:

but we didn’t and thats the point.

I bet mister “scary” just has a crush.

take it as a complement and move on.

I admire women in general (and am sorry for making fun of Greta), but it's hard to have a crush on someone that I haven't seen.

I think this thread is going out of rails like another the old one, I did will comment, but lets this useless discussion dies!

So, I’ve tried not……I’ve tried SO hard to not laugh but its stronger than me

–500 paragons points

Forgive me…. but that is just downright funny. :slight_smile:
The only way I can possibly picture that happening is if a new person started out reading one of your ‘other world’ posts. I can imagine that could possibly give a person not familiar with you pause.
But they would most likely recover real fast…… :smiley:

As far as being straight forward. Probably everyone has a different definition of that, and that is just fine. To me a straight forward person is being polite. I know exactly where they stand & to me that is a good thing. No guess work involved & usually no surprises or worries of a ‘knife in the back’ from that person. I am speaking of life in general here… certainly not just BLF.

I do think that either extreme of ‘telling it like it is’ most usually is not the best thing. Although, as SubSailorVet mentioned; there is a time for extremes also.
Sadly, in life; ruthless extremes are all a few people understand. But even with those people, once you have their attention; things usually go much smoother & low key.

And go to the extreme of ‘sugar coating’ something to the extreme is pretty much just sickening as well as confusing…. to me anyway.

Here on BLF, an internet forum; neither extreme is very, very, rarely called for.
Though the boundaries of those extremes vary from person to person.

I think here on BLF it works pretty good for the most part.

Yeah, unfortunately I had to close it down, those quote mazes were absolutely killing the server with all the CPU cycles, and I was already having a problem with excessive server load around that time period. Sorry to rain on the parade, that was admittedly a funny thread.

No apology necessary…. it was best that one got laid to rest for whatever reason…. :smiley:

Hrrmph. Nobody ever believes me.

You probably even think I made up that story about when a bunch of us old-world deities put aside our differences to celebrate the Earth’s 6000th birthday, complete with 6000 candles on the cake. October 23, 1997, just as Bishop Ussher calculated. But that’s okay, I found my pictures this time. Took a while since it was before any of us had digital cameras.




The cake was a little, um, warm… but still edible. It was nicely protected under a layer of freshly-melted wax.

Then we followed that up with an Earth piñata. Good times.

At first we did this much more often, breaking a simulacrum of the world every century to get out frustrations and help everyone avoid breaking the real one… but now that we’ve all calmed down a bit it’s only once per millenia for old times’ sake.

Not sure if it’ll happen next time. After putting 6000 candles on the cake one at a time, even shaving the wax down to make them narrow enough to fit, Hestia swore never again. But maybe she’ll change her mind in the next 980 years. She does, after all, like to brag about being a sexy shoeless god of cooking… and she’s honestly kind of a pushover.