I believe no one but sb can see who is making the rude reports. Which I believe is the beauty of the system. Anyone can ācomplainā about a post and not be identified by the general membership. Being able to ID the complainant by members at large, especially the person being reported, will too often lead to unwarranted recriminations against by the offender. And then everything escalates into forum hell, which is what weāre trying to avoid or prevent. As sb mentioned too, our rude reports helps him sort out whether something he finds possibly offensive is offensive to the general membership.
+1
Two-way āpolicingā should help balance things out.
I recently learned that some people think Iām kind of scary. Soā¦ itās probably good that thereās a way for people to anonymously tell me I crossed a line. They might not do anything at all if it wasnāt anonymous.
As for calling it like one sees it, and not sugar-coating words, it sounds awfully close to being rude on purpose and being proud of it. Escalating by choiceā¦ which is kind of why the ārudeā button exists. Too many people were doing that, and it quickly turned into a dumpster fire.
As mentioned a few posts ago, ārespect went a long way and they cooperated when I was respectfulā is typically a better default style. It helps people interact as rational agents instead of falling back on old primal habits which havenāt really evolved away yet.
Well said!
I know you're a goddess and all, but I don't find you scary.
Also, I don't remember you ever crossing the rudeness line.
Keep up the good work!
Read this somewhere
āA lack of boundaries invites a lack of respectā
SB set the boundaries, we should respect them, as we are in his house :innocent:
Cheers David
You should see the first draft of my posts. 
but we didnāt and thats the point.
I bet mister āscaryā just has a crush.
take it as a complement and move on.
I admire women in general (and am sorry for making fun of Greta), but it's hard to have a crush on someone that I haven't seen. 
I think this thread is going out of rails like another the old one, I did will comment, but lets this useless discussion dies!
So, Iāve tried notā¦ā¦Iāve tried SO hard to not laugh but its stronger than me
ā500 paragons points
Forgive meā¦. but that is just downright funny. 
The only way I can possibly picture that happening is if a new person started out reading one of your āother worldā posts. I can imagine that could possibly give a person not familiar with you pause.
But they would most likely recover real fastā¦ā¦ 
As far as being straight forward. Probably everyone has a different definition of that, and that is just fine. To me a straight forward person is being polite. I know exactly where they stand & to me that is a good thing. No guess work involved & usually no surprises or worries of a āknife in the backā from that person. I am speaking of life in general hereā¦ certainly not just BLF.
I do think that either extreme of ātelling it like it isā most usually is not the best thing. Although, as SubSailorVet mentioned; there is a time for extremes also.
Sadly, in life; ruthless extremes are all a few people understand. But even with those people, once you have their attention; things usually go much smoother & low key.
And go to the extreme of āsugar coatingā something to the extreme is pretty much just sickening as well as confusingā¦. to me anyway.
Here on BLF, an internet forum; neither extreme is very, very, rarely called for.
Though the boundaries of those extremes vary from person to person.
I think here on BLF it works pretty good for the most part.
Yeah, unfortunately I had to close it down, those quote mazes were absolutely killing the server with all the CPU cycles, and I was already having a problem with excessive server load around that time period. Sorry to rain on the parade, that was admittedly a funny thread.
No apology necessaryā¦. it was best that one got laid to rest for whatever reasonā¦.
Hrrmph. Nobody ever believes me.
You probably even think I made up that story about when a bunch of us old-world deities put aside our differences to celebrate the Earthās 6000th birthday, complete with 6000 candles on the cake. October 23, 1997, just as Bishop Ussher calculated. But thatās okay, I found my pictures this time. Took a while since it was before any of us had digital cameras.
The cake was a little, um, warmā¦ but still edible. It was nicely protected under a layer of freshly-melted wax.
Then we followed that up with an Earth piƱata. Good times.
At first we did this much more often, breaking a simulacrum of the world every century to get out frustrations and help everyone avoid breaking the real oneā¦ but now that weāve all calmed down a bit itās only once per millenia for old timesā sake.
Not sure if itāll happen next time. After putting 6000 candles on the cake one at a time, even shaving the wax down to make them narrow enough to fit, Hestia swore never again. But maybe sheāll change her mind in the next 980 years. She does, after all, like to brag about being a sexy shoeless god of cookingā¦ and sheās honestly kind of a pushover.
Sorry, itās a bad habit.
We should probably get back to talking about shiny things. I like shiny things.
No TKā¦ I have never been a doubter of youā¦ā¦ after I read a few of your posts & the replys I knew you were on the level. 
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Just saying possibly a new person might need the same āinitiation periodāā¦. depending on which post of yours they read first.
But either way, they are bound to soon come to the same conclusion I did!
You are A-OKā¦ā¦
That is an amazing amount of candles on that cakeā¦ā¦ā¦ :+1:
I bet it did have a bit of a ātoasty waxā flavor.
Ow thats right, shiny thingsā¦ā¦
TK, Wow! Iāve done 100 candles and thought it was quite the blaze. Hard to imagine 6000.
Looks like she setting a piece of shag carpet on fire
As a reminder for those new to the operation of the rule, the button label is ārudeā but thatās not the only rule violation that the button is used to point out.
You know how to look this stuff up ā the site rules link is just below the upper left corner of every page.
Someone may be perfectly polite and charming and still be stepping on toes ā Iāve heard that called a āwide loadā personality,
itās a kind of approach to conversation that āuses both lanes of the highwayā or āsucks all the oxygen out of the roomā or āFoghorn Leghorn.ā
The button could be labeled āplease back off, 11th Commandment violation in progressā
You know the 11th Commandment?
Itās āYou do too know what I mean.ā
(And if you think this is pointed at you, bless your heart, itās meant to describe who Iāve been and have to watch for being. Been there done that regretted it.)
Remember Rule 9.