Poll: Should We Do Away With Anonymous Rude Marks?

I recently learned that some people think Iā€™m kind of scary. Soā€¦ itā€™s probably good that thereā€™s a way for people to anonymously tell me I crossed a line. They might not do anything at all if it wasnā€™t anonymous.

As for calling it like one sees it, and not sugar-coating words, it sounds awfully close to being rude on purpose and being proud of it. Escalating by choiceā€¦ which is kind of why the ā€˜rudeā€™ button exists. Too many people were doing that, and it quickly turned into a dumpster fire.

As mentioned a few posts ago, ā€œrespect went a long way and they cooperated when I was respectfulā€ is typically a better default style. It helps people interact as rational agents instead of falling back on old primal habits which havenā€™t really evolved away yet.

Well said!

I know you're a goddess and all, but I don't find you scary.

Also, I don't remember you ever crossing the rudeness line.

Keep up the good work!

Read this somewhere

ā€œA lack of boundaries invites a lack of respectā€

SB set the boundaries, we should respect them, as we are in his house :innocent:

Cheers David

You should see the first draft of my posts. :stuck_out_tongue:

Yepā€¦ I think you are correct. Kinda what we figured out HERE ā€¦ā€¦ :+1:

but we didnā€™t and thats the point.

I bet mister ā€œscaryā€ just has a crush.

take it as a complement and move on.

I admire women in general (and am sorry for making fun of Greta), but it's hard to have a crush on someone that I haven't seen.

I think this thread is going out of rails like another the old one, I did will comment, but lets this useless discussion dies!

So, Iā€™ve tried notā€¦ā€¦Iā€™ve tried SO hard to not laugh but its stronger than me

ā€“500 paragons points

Forgive meā€¦. but that is just downright funny. :slight_smile:
The only way I can possibly picture that happening is if a new person started out reading one of your ā€˜other worldā€™ posts. I can imagine that could possibly give a person not familiar with you pause.
But they would most likely recover real fastā€¦ā€¦ :smiley:

As far as being straight forward. Probably everyone has a different definition of that, and that is just fine. To me a straight forward person is being polite. I know exactly where they stand & to me that is a good thing. No guess work involved & usually no surprises or worries of a ā€˜knife in the backā€™ from that person. I am speaking of life in general hereā€¦ certainly not just BLF.

I do think that either extreme of ā€˜telling it like it isā€™ most usually is not the best thing. Although, as SubSailorVet mentioned; there is a time for extremes also.
Sadly, in life; ruthless extremes are all a few people understand. But even with those people, once you have their attention; things usually go much smoother & low key.

And go to the extreme of ā€˜sugar coatingā€™ something to the extreme is pretty much just sickening as well as confusingā€¦. to me anyway.

Here on BLF, an internet forum; neither extreme is very, very, rarely called for.
Though the boundaries of those extremes vary from person to person.

I think here on BLF it works pretty good for the most part.

Yeah, unfortunately I had to close it down, those quote mazes were absolutely killing the server with all the CPU cycles, and I was already having a problem with excessive server load around that time period. Sorry to rain on the parade, that was admittedly a funny thread.

No apology necessaryā€¦. it was best that one got laid to rest for whatever reasonā€¦. :smiley:

Hrrmph. Nobody ever believes me.

You probably even think I made up that story about when a bunch of us old-world deities put aside our differences to celebrate the Earthā€™s 6000th birthday, complete with 6000 candles on the cake. October 23, 1997, just as Bishop Ussher calculated. But thatā€™s okay, I found my pictures this time. Took a while since it was before any of us had digital cameras.




The cake was a little, um, warmā€¦ but still edible. It was nicely protected under a layer of freshly-melted wax.

Then we followed that up with an Earth piƱata. Good times.

At first we did this much more often, breaking a simulacrum of the world every century to get out frustrations and help everyone avoid breaking the real oneā€¦ but now that weā€™ve all calmed down a bit itā€™s only once per millenia for old timesā€™ sake.

Not sure if itā€™ll happen next time. After putting 6000 candles on the cake one at a time, even shaving the wax down to make them narrow enough to fit, Hestia swore never again. But maybe sheā€™ll change her mind in the next 980 years. She does, after all, like to brag about being a sexy shoeless god of cookingā€¦ and sheā€™s honestly kind of a pushover.

Sorry, itā€™s a bad habit.

We should probably get back to talking about shiny things. I like shiny things.

No TKā€¦ I have never been a doubter of youā€¦ā€¦ after I read a few of your posts & the replys I knew you were on the level. :wink: ā€¦
Just saying possibly a new person might need the same ā€˜initiation periodā€™ā€¦. depending on which post of yours they read first. :smiley:
But either way, they are bound to soon come to the same conclusion I did!
You are A-OKā€¦ā€¦ :wink:

That is an amazing amount of candles on that cakeā€¦ā€¦ā€¦ :+1:
I bet it did have a bit of a ā€˜toasty waxā€™ flavor.

Ow thats right, shiny thingsā€¦ā€¦

TK, Wow! Iā€™ve done 100 candles and thought it was quite the blaze. Hard to imagine 6000.

Looks like she setting a piece of shag carpet on fire

As a reminder for those new to the operation of the rule, the button label is ā€œrudeā€ but thatā€™s not the only rule violation that the button is used to point out.
You know how to look this stuff up ā€” the site rules link is just below the upper left corner of every page.

Someone may be perfectly polite and charming and still be stepping on toes ā€” Iā€™ve heard that called a ā€œwide loadā€ personality,
itā€™s a kind of approach to conversation that ā€œuses both lanes of the highwayā€ or ā€œsucks all the oxygen out of the roomā€ or ā€œFoghorn Leghorn.ā€

The button could be labeled ā€œplease back off, 11th Commandment violation in progressā€

You know the 11th Commandment?
Itā€™s ā€œYou do too know what I mean.ā€

(And if you think this is pointed at you, bless your heart, itā€™s meant to describe who Iā€™ve been and have to watch for being. Been there done that regretted it.)

Remember Rule 9.

Boy there are some touchy members,I just noticed I got a ā€œrudeā€ a week ago :smiley:
For this

link to post.

Maybe it was because I gave them a choice and they couldnā€™t handle it :smiling_imp:

Thats very rude for me, that first emoticon gave a huge fear in me and you post twiceā€¦ā€¦

You are REALLY evil