OK, hopefully I’m understanding you better now. Your #2 situation is the part that I think will settle down once people are accustomed to the button and the meter being there. Remember that sb is tracking the use of the button and abuses will be handled. With that in mind, I would never worry about my rudeness meter. If I see it bump up, I may look back at some of my recent posts. I think that’s the main purpose of it being there. But, unless I know I’ve been rude, I have no reason to feel bad. Only if I hear from sb will I be worried.
If someone hits the RUDE! button on me just because they disagree with me, they are putting themselves in danger with sb for abuse. I’m fine with that. 
It was actually the other way around, read it again.
“Sorry, but I strongly disagree with you” then go on to say why, using no name calling, abuse, rudeness or offensive language.
Easy isn’t it
A few “rude” scores against you is nothing, and will disappear in time.
This whole thread brings a couple of sayings to my mind,
A storm in a tea cup
A mountain out of a molehill
Lighten up and party on
Cheers David
YaHoooo!!!
Sorry, had to Rude you for that...
Yes, I agree with this observation, and the “rude” button is working. It may not be perfect, but it’s an effective first step.
Somewhat i doubt SB will review each and every rude point for the same reason he doesn’t read the forum, and if someone takes offense and goes to SB with a rude point he consider isn’t deserved or malicious that would be a sad loss of time and energy considering the giver of the point might feel righteous given the subjective nature of rudeness i wrote about earlier, i can’t see SB wasting his time with this pointless arguing, and entering minute phylosophical arguments to decide where to put the blame.
And this trouble would only be created by the rude meter wich i still can’t find any merit to.
You can still disagree every bit as strongly a before, but you’ll have to be focused on debating the ideas and not the person unless you want to risk being “ruded”. I’ve been in courtrooms listening to some lawyers who could debase the Pope without being directly rude or abusive. It’s something of an art which I wish I were good at. The only ones at risk here are those intentionally being rude and those too stupid to understand the value of eloquence and respect for others in a civil and public setting. 98% of us are safe, the remaining 2% won’t last long, and that is pretty darn good if you ask me.
Debate the message, not the messenger
Phil
Here here!
One thing the new feature might do is pop a few “judgy bubbles”… and this might be pretty unpleasant for anyone whose bubble gets poked.
If you find yourself checking the meter I wouldn’t be alarmed, it’s new, so I think it’s normal to be curious, I certainly am. If you see points on a regular basis then maybe there’s an issue. If you don’t then after awhile you’ll probably stop looking at it. It’s not an issue to post about what happens in the news. The problem comes from voicing things that are against the rules. if you feel this is an infringement then it’s more than likely that what you wanted to say shouldn’t be said here. I think a like button unnecessary. It should be assumed that we are already nice. If you want to thank someone especially then just post or pm your gratitude, no need to do it all the time but it will get noticed. I should do more of this myself as this place is loaded with really great people. I think we should keep the rudeness button well past the time it loses interest as only then will we begin to see the normal affect it will have. I think the only response to an uptick should be “Oops, sorry folks” and no more. Let it go and it will go away, keep bringing it up and it won’t.
This.
(By way of affirmation as well as example.)
Why do some people seem pretty obsessed about their rude meter? I don’t even log in to BLF unless I need to post. So sometimes I won’t even see my rude meter for the entire day. Even when I’m logged in, I don’t seek it out. First world problem.
Stranded in the dark without flashlight… Now that’s a third world problem
nightmare material :smiling_imp:
I think a "Thanks" meter should be implemented. It shows which members are really helping the most and encourages others to do the same. It works, it really seems to make people focus on good constructive participation. Pulls the best out of the worst and helps the best encourage the worst. Works everytime. Positive re-enforcement is nothing new to correcting abnormal behavioral issues.
Some (probably ‘most’) of us already do think — a lot more than just twice — about what we post.
Well, except for this one.
Wow this thread has turned serious now you need some thing to break the seriousness is that even a word?
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Chuckle. The equivalent experiment is to pop the “search bubble” aka “filter bubble” — sign out of everything Google, flush the cache, restart the browser, and repeat that favorite search that always brings up exactly the kind of thing you like to read about fresh every day, and …. surprise! The world differs.
Google profiles what you like to click on, and shows you more and more of that, so you see more predictably targeted ads: $$PROFIT$$.
Squared!
I am also in favor of a Thanks meter. 