"Warning Sappy Broken Heart" thread

My wife is leaving me, she’s fallen in love with a coworker.

It hurts, I was completely blindsided, and I feel like I’m in limbo.
As far as I know she’s not taking me to the cleaners, and she will let me see little man half the time.
She broke it to me yesterday. His wife got the news yesterday too. Seems so surreal, I never thought she’d leave me.
12 years together . and now I’m on my own once more (no it’s not a flashlight related divorce)

I am sorry for your loss. The heart is such a fragile thing. When your heart is open to let love in, terrible pain comes with it. Be it from death or the whims of the heart. I wish you the best in recovering and getting through your wife’s leaving you.

Thanks guys, I’m not sure if they been physical and frankly I don’t care at this point. Just going to put one foot in front of the other, love my son, and put my life back together one piece at a time

A sound plan. Happiness is out there and will be waiting for you when you have navigated this ordeal.

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It’s okay to drown yourself in flashaholicism for a while!

Hang in there brother. I went through it 20 years ago and it’s terrible. Time will heal and God bless.

Sorry to hear man, hope your hart heals fast, and I’m sorry too for having only half time to see your son. A friend of mine have a good set of phrases for this situation, but I can’t repeat them here

I know you’re going through alot of pain right now, I hope you feel better soon, time heals, please keep your head up. God bless you bro.

Be prepared for the stages of grief.
Don’t let her take any of your dignity or self respect.
Don’t give her any satisfaction, go on with your life in the most positive manner you can. When the spark fizzles from the “situation” she’s in, she will be invalidated to some extent by how you conduct yourself during this really sucky time in your life.
Above all remember there is a light :wink: at the end of the this tunnel!
That’s my 2 cents, FWIW.

Sorry to hear. Life throws lots of crap at us and the best we can do is put on our game faces and deal head on with whatever comes. Keep your chin up, and know that we are all here for you.

i’m not married yet so i don’t know your pain
i’m so sorry :frowning:

:arrow: Kendall, PM inbound.

I feel so sorry to hear that. And at the same time kind of angry your wife did that to you. All of the sudden without any signs of unhappiness, without professional help, without any pointers, just Bam. It's a broken world we live in. I wouldn't at first accept this, and talk with her....You just can't decide these things in such a short time, and without talking with your partner. They probably are very blind at this moment anyway.

I would strongly suggest taking her to a marriage counselor,, and see what's really going on, and try to save your marriage, not just to see your little one. Marriage is more than that!

All the best with the tough decisions and probably tough talks.

Life is not like flashlights! Once the batteries are empty the light dies. But rather put new batteries in, and modify it with the tools you have. And your lost loved light will be back to full or even fuller brightness.

Don't ditch that light, nor sell or give it away.

Yeah, I hear ya ChibiM. I’m more than a little shocked that she never thought about counselling. Instead she took the miscarriage we had as a near death experience (wasn’t that close) and make drastic changes. Theirs nothing I can do to sway her, and I am a little tired of bending over backwards to keep her happy. I’ll never stop loving her, but I’m not going to chase her

How heartbreaking. :frowning: I’m sorry to hear this. Sending lots of hugs.

I hope all the best for you!

Wishing you the best…lawyer. Keep your head up, on straight, with your son’s future in plain sight. Prioritize. I’ve been there, twice, same woman, believe me when I say that when they decide to walk you’re best of letting them. Well, that was my personal experience and everyone’s different so of course I really don’t know what to tell you but stay strong and walk tall. God leads us into it, and He’ll get us through it. :wink:

Prayin for you brother.

Well, at least you can be consoled in the fact that her new relationship will not last. Most people who cheat on their spouses and leave to be with the "other", never make it very long and there is no trust, because if both of them are cheaters, then how can they trust each other not to do it again? One of them most likely will do it again. Time heals all wounds, if you let it... love is fleeting at best and never the same for any two people. Can't change that, just bear up and give it time.

Never mind the hugs and sympathy - you’ve got a son to think about.

Waddya mean she’ll ‘let you’ have your son half the time? She’s the one who strayed, not you. If you don’t act fast you could end up without a roof over your head and have a stranger (and a proven A-hole at that) raising your kid with your money.

Two words. Lawyer. NOW!

Cry later.