Just trust in SB doing it right
he is doing a great job and the community is awesome
The rude thing helps him, and I am sure if somebody is giving rude flags too often he will write that person a pm about it. As I am sure if somebody gets rude flags SB will contact that person if he deems that fitting.
heheh besides I see lots of posts that are only about how rude points were received, and you know what? If the thread is “hey I got rude marks” that is fine (maybe stat such topic, post there, link to the ruded post and ask why it was rude )
BUT tadaa if it is in another thread such posts are off topic and off topic about not nice things surely can be seen as rude
Just stop talking about rudepoints for it can hijack a thread in a very rude manner, no matter how polite the actual words in the posts about them are.
Your rude meter is like fight club
Ok maybe I should say “half time I have clicked the rude button the person mentions/complains about their rude mark”
I also see many other times people speak up about rude marks when it wasn’t me, so I can’t be the only one!
On other forums I’m on there is no rude button but you’re not allowed to publicly discuss moderation/removed posts/bans, so that helps keep the threads free from “why did this get removed? … this is not fair … i did nothing wrong … who was it” kind of stuff.
I understand that it’s frustrating when you get an apparently unjustified rudeness point. And the very fact that you care about your rudeness level is an excellent sign that you are indeed a respectful and friendly BLF member.
However, while there is always a small amount of “noise” and illegitimate hits on the Rude! button, it is surprisingly free of wide-scale abuse. For example, I have an admin page that shows me the name and rudeness score of all the users that currently have points. Here’s where it stands now (names not shown for obvious reasons):
So there are currently 4 users that got Rude! hits whose points haven’t expired yet. Of those, there is obviously one huge outlier that I already talked to via PM about the problem and will continue to watch to see if changes are made. Two other users in that list made posts that I would also consider to be genuinely rude. And another user in that list participated in a public argument, which always makes you a target for people getting offended. So the current set of Rude! button points is spot-on.
The button in question is labeled Rude!. I had to call it something. But I think people tend to forget that the post on how to use the Rude! button defines rudeness as more than just the typical grumpy, insulting, foul-mouthed post that almost everyone would consider to be rude. Specifically, this rule is often forgotten:
The main BLF Rules also reiterate the same thing very clearly:
So this is where a lot of the Rude! hits come from. Even if the post and/or user is friendly, it is against the rules and considered as rude when somebody participates in an escalating argument or responds to a rude post. So please make a concerted effort to not respond publicly to rude posts. Just drop it, give the grumpy-insulting-foul-obscene user the cold shoulder, and move on, or change the subject with kitten pictures.
Thanks a lot to the vast majority of our users here that really do care about getting along and who are usually friendly and helpful to everyone.
…or hit the Rude! button and let SB deal with it instead!
I’ve found that everyone truly has different opinions about almost everything. And everyone approaches life differently. Therefore, everyone deals with conflict differently as well. The Rude! button is there for those who wish to use it. And according to SB, it is being effective and not too much abused. If you’d rather talk it out in the open, I’d personally say go for it! One of the beautiful things about BLF is that we do have the privilege (and responsibility) to self-moderate. But don’t get caught up in arguments, because those are against the rules, as SB reminded us all just a few posts ago. ^ Remember that “self moderate” means that you must “moderate” your “self” not others.