Today sucked pretty bad

It’s a terrible feeling.

My wife had two miscarriages last year. It sucked. First two pregnancies, first ended in March, second ended in September.

One thing that helped was naming both babies. Also, talking with the doc after the second, he assured us that many miscarriages result from problems with the pregnancy…… That if the body was forced to carry the baby to term, still born baby, undeveloped baby etc. The pregnancy may never have been healthy at any point in time. Sometimes the woman’s body just knows if there is a problem.

My prayers are with you.

Also, if people want to offer prayers for my wife, she is eleven weeks now. Third try, and another miscarriage would likely be permanently emotionally damaging.

Very sorry to hear about your miscarriage, CarpentryHero. :frowning:
PM sent.

Sorry for your loss :frowning: Best wishes to you.

So sorry to hear of your loss. My Prayers to you and your wife.

Hang in there CarpentryHero. It will take time to heal.
Talking it out with your wife could be the best therapy for both of you.
Reaching out to your families support network can also help.

My dearest heart felt condolences go out to you and your wife. We had a similar experience several years ago. Your heart is in the right place and your feelings are very much intact, just as they should be.

Big hug to you Kendall… hang in there buddy. Pls check your pm.

my sister went through this a couple years back… I can’t imagine the pain and I’m sorry for your loss :frowning:
but now they have two beautiful kids so hang in there!

So sorry to hear about you loss. Try and keep this in mind. When you go through the stages of grief you will both hit the anger stage at some point. Maybe not at the same time but it will come. When you do try hard not to take it out on each other but if she does take it out on you remember that it’s natural for her to be angry as part of her grief. It also helps to know that everyone goes through the stages at different speeds. So what might seem inappropriate to one of you probably isn’t. What I mean by that is sometimes one person gets over it first or one person seems to stay stuck in a stage for a long time. Try not and get upset with each other as one or the other jumps ahead a stage. Eventually you will come to accept your loss. Not that you will ever really forget but you will accept it.

As for naming I don’t know if that is a good idea or not. I do know that it helps to keep a memento. If you have an ultrasound or somthing like that you might consider keeping it close by.

Good luck and stay tough, we are all pulling for the both of you.

Sad news, indeed. You have my heartfelt condolences. My brother and his wide went through this twice before being blessed with a son. Each was very hard on them. Cry and try again.

Man the people here are so nice.

I’m deeply sorry for your loss mate :frowning:

Sorry to hear this ... Prayers for you and your family

Sorry to hear your bad news.

Sorry to hear that. My deepest condolences.

My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

Just wanted to join in, and say that I agree with all the above..

share the burden! 4 shoulders can carry more than 2.

Well I know you do not know me and I am a new guy here but, I can totally relate because I went through this about 10 years ago. My wife and I lost our triplet babies, we had complications and they came way to early and we lost all 3 at birth in the hospital:( .

My advice is pretty simple talk about it with your wife, let it ALL out and do not hold it in. If your religious person going to church may help too. The key for me was to stay busy (I had a project car that I worked on, it kept me and my mind busy). Over time it will get easier but it takes a while, I still get upset thinking and talking about it. Also they offered us grief counseling, but we did not do it (It might be something that would be good for you once things settle down a little).

Hang in there.

So sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine the situation, but the only thing I can tell you is to try it again and don’t let this sad experience stop your intention to make a bigger family

Sorry for your loss CarpentryHero. My condolences to you and your family :(

Terribly sorry, man. Hang in there.

“MiniMagic That Never Was” - This touched me beyond words. He/she “was” you just didnt get to meet…this time around. All I can say dude is keep on keeping on and support your wife, it will get easier - i’m not religious but believe that there is more to us than this one life, my condolences to you and your wife.

Thanks all, I appreciate all the great advise. It helps to let it out :slight_smile: