Maybe you’re confusing li-ion with lipo.
Lipos explode much more easily.

As for cylindrical li-ion cells, take a look at tests people have done on youtube, either shorting the cells or overcharging them.
In almost all cases they won’t explode, they just heat up.

Obviously if you force 20 amps into one using a power supply instead of a regular charger then it will vent.
You sound like you’re very paranoid, and overestimating how often 18650s actually vent or explode.