Guide: how to flash ATtiny13a based drivers (NANJG, QLITE, etc.) with custom firmware

I wrote a post in another thread with perhaps some useful info: what programmer to buy

At least the info on what AVR Dude responds with if it can find the programmer or not, and then if it can find the chip or not, is of interest. I was having problems and it took me a while to figure it out.