It’s good to find evidence you’re not crazy. Some of your initial experiences remind me of my own.
When I got the first few batches of PAR20-ish bulbs, my first thought after installing them was, “wow, these are dimmer than halogens”. So I went and got a few halogens to compare. The LED bulbs were NOTICEABLY brighter, especially comparing the 4x3s and the 5x3s to the halogens. Maybe it’s something about the color of the light, or the beam pattern, or maybe even the appearance of the bulb, that makes one think they’re dimmer? The beam pattern is pretty similar to the halogens.
Which brings me to: I have ordered 30 degree, 45 degree, and 60 degree. I cannot tell the difference in beam angle between those in the same bulb type. However I CAN tell the difference when the beam angle AND number of LEDs is different. For example, 3x3 30 degree has the narrowest spot of light out of all of them. 5x3 60 degree has the widest. Put those two together and I can clearly tell the difference. Everything in between is a blur.
I have been using the 3x3’s mostly for accent lighting. Hit a picture, uplight a plant, they do that perfectly. I have been using the 5x3’s for general lighting. If I was only going to order one type I would order the 4x3 since they are a happy medium. I dont really notice much difference in brightness between the 4x3 and the 5x3, but the 5x3 seems less directional.
I have one room that if I had to guess is about 18’x20’ and it’s lit exclusively by R/PAR20 track heads. There are 14 of them. They are all lamped with the 4x3 60 degree dimmable. It’s not super bright in there but it’s more than bright enough to work and have some ambiance. It’s definitely brighter than it was with incandescent/halogen bulbs. Ceiling is 9’
Other than that, I dont have any rooms lit exclusively with LED PAR20s. They are mixed with other types of lighting in the same areas
I have:
In our commercial bulding
-two accenting pictures in the lobby (in addition to many LED PAR30s accenting other things) (ceiling is ~9’)
-three or four in a ceiling fixture in each bathroom (in addition to (2) LED PAR30s over each sink) (ceiling is ~9’)
-more than a dozen as accent lights in our salon (general lighting provided by T8s, LED PAR30s, and LED PAR38s)
-more than a dozen as accent lights in other large rooms (general lighting mostly halogen)
-five in the front stairwell, which is open. Four are in a ceiling fixture that hangs down to maybe 10’ off the stairs, the recessed light is at the tallest peak and probably 20’ up.
-six in the back stairwell, which is enclosed. One is in a ceiling fixture at the top 9’ off the landing. Four are in a hanging fixture maybe 10’ off the stairs. One is in a pendant over the bottom landing and the bulb is probably 14’ off the stairs at least.
I also bought some for my dad, he now has
-one as a reading light over his breakfast nook, with spiral CFLs as the general lighting (9’ ceiling)
-four in the ceiling fixture in his 3 season porch (12’x14’ if I had to guess, no other lighting) (8’ ceiling)
-two over the bathroom sink (one 23w CFL as general lighting) (9’ ceiling)
In all of these cases, the LEDs were noticeably brighter than the CFLs or halogens they replaced.
Sorry I cant help more with spacing. I dont typically use PAR20s as general lighting, halogen or LED. When I do, it’s usually because the fixture wasnt designed for PAR bulbs but I want directional light, and PAR20s are the largest bulb that will fit. When that’s not a factor I normally use PAR38 for general lighting. If I was to use PAR20’s for general lighting, I would probably put a can every 4-6’ in both directions.
I have video of our commercial building I took for another reason, hit me offlist if it would help to see it.