They say that for every door that closes, another one opens…
I hope the one that opens reveals positives you’ve not known before 
I just can't understand how the meaning of marriage is lost, and that many people, also here in this thread, treat marriage as a flashlight.. Just divorce and game on... that's not what marriage is meant to be.
What do you guys actually Promise at your wedding? It doesn't seem to mean anything ! Your flashlight dies on you, jut sell it, trash it, or give it away.
That's not the same as a marriage.
This is not towards you carpenter, but a cry of dissatisfaction as how people treat marriage.
I wish you all the best carpenter!
Good to see you still have your sense of humour Kendall…
Sorry to hear it, remember BLF will always be here to help your perspective. Many of us have gone through similar heartache.
As OL says, Time heals, just take one day/hour/breath at a time when it hurts.
As Flashination says, learn the stages of grief, and keep the moral high ground and you’ll come out OK eventually.
+10
Sorry to hear it CarpentryHero. Good luck to you.
My daughter called me about fifteen minutes ago saying that her and her husband are getting a divorce. I’m so sad.
CH, sorry to hear this. Am praying for you. Lot’s of special advice here. I think Chibi’s is wise. Try but be prepared to let go. Forgive her and yourself. It’s crucial in healing. Rem you have a son to share.
Sorry to hear that Bro. You've been nothing but a true gentleman in this forum. You deserve better. Hang in there and when the time comes down the road, be brave enough to open your heart once again.
Sorry to hear, but unfortunately the time for counselling is long gone, she would not want to listen in any case, her mind was made up long ago 
+1 on that.
Cut your losses and try to avoid future losses.
Wow, I am so sorry to hear this… No matter how hard the healing process may seem, know that you’ll get through it. I’m praying for you man!
I’m sorry for your loss. But don’t lose hope. There’s always light in midst of darkness.
0:)
+2 Also please make sure you do not post or say anything that can come back to haunt you in divorce court.
PM sent.
Please take it as unqualified suggestions, not as qualified advise.
Also, further to it, may I suggest contacting/reaching out to mutual friends before she poisons them and destroys possible support networks for you ? (I do not know how vindictive she is, so base your decisions upon the intimate knowledge of her that you hold, that I obviously lack).
Thanks all
Just try and take it one day at a time. My best friend’s wife left him last year and he has had a time of it. She left him for her best friend, a women that we have all known and hung out with for years. He is doing all right now but it’s been hard on him. But time does heal all wounds as they say. He said that keeping busy helped him the most.
Best of luck and I said a prayer for you. God bless.
I’m a younger guy, so I can’t relate to going through such a situation, but I have seen many people (family especially) around me go through divorce quite a few times.
I’m gonna go ahead and +3 on the lawyering up and staying a perfect gentleman…she may seem reasonable and willing to work now, but that could change in the weeks or months ahead. Don’t say any thing that could hurt you in court (seen it happen), and protect yourself. Be selfish. She is the one in the wrong here, make sure you can come out of the situation smelling like roses yourself.
I truly am sorry to see anybody go through this, but imagine if she had gone on hiding this secret for months or even years……Better to handle the truth than live a lie.
the heart wants what the heart wants…the truth is that kelly clarkson doesn’t know a damn thing about what makes a person stronger…after having killed a deer with a motorcycle and driven a car through a rock retaining wall and a head on collision with a truck while riding my bicycle and losing my daughter last year i can tell you that what does not kill you does not make you stronger…more often than not we are left with scars both emotional and physical that will never fully heal…i am sorry you have to go through this…at least for me tequila on a regular basis helps…
Hows our favorite CarpentryHero doing these days? Got any plans for the holidays? Any new flashlights to tell us about?
I was wondering about him these last weeks, but I saw he was active during the last days (I was planning to ask too, but I didn’t know if it was the right thing to do). I hope that heart is better now
Well I just got my paypal updated to the new account, only purchase I have on the way is the JerzeeDevilForum group buy Sunwayman V10r ti XML2
I bought it cause I miss my old v10r
No plans, just enjoying having my son, going to spoil him and spend as much time with family as I can.
Thanks for checking in