I think its rude for any of us to post in a thread about rude people wanting to take away a rude button, and rude people using the rude button :partying_face:
Speaking of rude, what happened to the please dont quote quote thread?
Saw that… It was marked with 4 new posts that I could not see when I noticed. Was wondering if one of them 4 posts was the culprit, or the general nonsense that led up to the last 4 posts lol
Personally, I don’t usually care which words people use… I care more about the underlying message. I mean, slurs are still to be avoided, particularly ones with a bloody history, but common “four letter words” seem pretty harmless. And some pretty harmful things can be said with flowery words.
I recognize that goes against both local convention and mainstream culture though, so it’s generally a good idea to follow that instead. As they say, when in Rome, do as the Romans do…
… even if the Romans were invasive imperialist jerks.
I had no intent to belittle anyone, I was only suggesting to let it stay so people that won’t call someone out can get the last word. I guess my wording made it sound belittling. I call it how I see it and don’t sugar coat what I say. Sorry if I offended anyone.
Only SB knows for sure, but I get the impression that a lot of the “rude” points are sent from people who aren’t actively participating in the discussion. It’s a way to let someone know to be more careful without turning the thread into an off-topic discussion about etiquette.
Private messages can be used for this too, but it doesn’t happen as often and doesn’t give SB the same visibility into issues he might need to resolve. PMs can also be somewhat risky (or at least socially awkward) for the person asking for better behavior, and can easily escalate into disputes. Escalation is far less likely with the current system, aside from people occasionally complaining about the system itself.
The rude system can be abused, but the consequences are much more harsh than for someone merely making obnoxious posts. It gets SB’s attention and carries a high risk of getting the abuser banned, because it demonstrates harmful intent.
It’s not perfect, but it seems better than how things were before. The system was added because threads kept going into angry death spirals… and that is much less common now.
Oh it is a heck of a lot better than it was right before the rude system was implemented. No doubt about that.
Interesting… I was under the impression that the person giving the rude mark could not be identified. From what you say TK looks like I was mis-informed.