Oh it is a heck of a lot better than it was right before the rude system was implemented. No doubt about that.
Interesting… I was under the impression that the person giving the rude mark could not be identified. From what you say TK looks like I was mis-informed. 
Teacher, you have always been very amicable and friendly to me. I appreciate that! I do call things how I see them and never sugar coat my words. If I wasn’t reserved here I would have been kicked out long ago. I spent most of my working life in many supervisory positions, in the Navy I was a very young leader and made rank faster than normal because of my ways, one was telling my leaders how things really were, the hard truth and not telling them what weaklings think they want to hear. In the restaurant and nightclub business I had to get my point across to people with thick hard skulls, in IT I was the director of technology for a small but very busy hospital and had a few hundred “users” that were a buncha dumb@#€¥!, it was hard but I did talk to the nurses gently, the arrogant doctors not so much. when I was a fugitive recovery agent I used strong language not because I liked it, because that is the only language scumbag degenerate filthy criminal sh¥&#€?s understand. Well that and a nightstick across the skull or stun gun at the base of the neck gets your point across most of the time. Putting big bad tough guys in pink handcuffs and pink leg shackles pisses them off and takes away their bad attitude most of the time. Ha! But dealing with the hard criminals I discovered using respect not kissing their butt worked most of the time. Treating a criminal gently was hard to do because they were scumbags, but respect went a long way and they cooperated when I was respectful. If respect didn’t work, I used different methods, but they all eventually gave in and went to jail and I got paid. This is the only forum I’ve been where profanity is not allowed. It is a good idea, and the rude button lets SB know who gave it. I wonder if it was public knowledge who gave it how that would go??? What do you think?
This was a good point and my style to live, I tell what I think with no malevolent attacks hide in beautiful words. Since my conscious is clean, I cant do nothing if someone can’t deal with my thoughts :innocent:
:+1: 
Well said SSV. :+1: … It sounds as though you have had a variety of experience also. 
It was actually discussed earlier in this thread to make the giver if the rude mark public. But it was decided that would not work.
I & a few others felt different…… BUT, this is SB’s house & his rules. And that also works fine with me, cause I think he does a fantastic job!!
So onward we go…….
Thanks also for the kind words. You just seem like a straight forward person to me. I like as well as respect that.
Straight forward is good. Straight forward and polite is even better.
I believe SB posted that in the original rudeness thread: [2016-06-11] Crackdown on rudeness
Anonymous to us, revealed to SB so that he can deal with people who abuse it.
Edit: SB responded to this thread earlier and said the same here: Poll: Should We Do Away With Anonymous Rude Marks? - #158 by sb56637
Probably did… Correction… seems he did. I’m just getting old(er) & forgetful it seems 
What was it someone called it/said they had, in another thread? CRS ???
Anyway…
I think I have the beginning of early onset (yeah, 65 is early… ) CRS. 
Can’t Remember Stuff…… .
Either way, it is what it is; whether I remember it or not.
But……… I am very glad he can.
That’s what I used to do, until people on this forum got very upset with me
Anything sugar is not so popular these days. Less sugar, more exercise… You know… 
Well… some people seem to be sugar addicts. But, SB has already said numerous times since the Rude! system was implemented, that it is working as he intended and there is no large scale abuse. And, although I don’t like getting Rude! points (especially since I don’t think I deserve them) the truth is that the Rude! system is more of a soft reminder to us of how our words are received here. The real enforcement is handled directly by SB, as it always has been. And he’s really good at it, IMHO. This is the best forum I’ve ever participated in!
I believe no one but sb can see who is making the rude reports. Which I believe is the beauty of the system. Anyone can “complain” about a post and not be identified by the general membership. Being able to ID the complainant by members at large, especially the person being reported, will too often lead to unwarranted recriminations against by the offender. And then everything escalates into forum hell, which is what we’re trying to avoid or prevent. As sb mentioned too, our rude reports helps him sort out whether something he finds possibly offensive is offensive to the general membership.
+1
Two-way “policing” should help balance things out.
I recently learned that some people think I’m kind of scary. So… it’s probably good that there’s a way for people to anonymously tell me I crossed a line. They might not do anything at all if it wasn’t anonymous.
As for calling it like one sees it, and not sugar-coating words, it sounds awfully close to being rude on purpose and being proud of it. Escalating by choice… which is kind of why the ‘rude’ button exists. Too many people were doing that, and it quickly turned into a dumpster fire.
As mentioned a few posts ago, “respect went a long way and they cooperated when I was respectful” is typically a better default style. It helps people interact as rational agents instead of falling back on old primal habits which haven’t really evolved away yet.
Well said!
I know you're a goddess and all, but I don't find you scary.
Also, I don't remember you ever crossing the rudeness line.
Keep up the good work!
Read this somewhere
“A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect”
SB set the boundaries, we should respect them, as we are in his house :innocent:
Cheers David
You should see the first draft of my posts.
but we didn’t and thats the point.
I bet mister “scary” just has a crush.
take it as a complement and move on.
I admire women in general (and am sorry for making fun of Greta), but it's hard to have a crush on someone that I haven't seen. 