As the recipient of rude points for totally un-rude posts, one was even praising, I totally agree. Thereās a place for anonymity, but the way it practiced here itās totally out of whack - from my experience.
i think the purpose of the rude marks is to let members know when other members think they are getting a little out of line. i am not aware of some dire consequence as a result. it may also serve a secondary purpose of alerting SB of potential problems including someone abusing said rude marks. I believe the ultimate reason for keeping them anonymous is to avoid the almost sure to follow flame wars. my personal pet peeve is the flagrant posting of OT but my style is to make my concerns public wither in the thread or starting a new topic.
sb is the only person who has an overview of how well the rude system works, what the balance is between functional use and misuse. It has been around for a few months now so Iām sure has developed an idea of that and Iām sure he will remove it from the site whenever it appears not serve a good purpose.
Just trust in SB doing it right
he is doing a great job and the community is awesome
The rude thing helps him, and I am sure if somebody is giving rude flags too often he will write that person a pm about it. As I am sure if somebody gets rude flags SB will contact that person if he deems that fitting.
heheh besides I see lots of posts that are only about how rude points were received, and you know what? If the thread is āhey I got rude marksā that is fine (maybe stat such topic, post there, link to the ruded post and ask why it was rude )
BUT tadaa if it is in another thread such posts are off topic and off topic about not nice things surely can be seen as rude
Just stop talking about rudepoints for it can hijack a thread in a very rude manner, no matter how polite the actual words in the posts about them are.
Your rude meter is like fight club
Honestly it work very well for a no-moderator system.
The reason itās anonymous is the same reason that users arenāt allowed to delete or edit other peopleās posts internet witchhunting and revenge.
However I have noticed that almost every time someone gets a rude point, they just have to mention it, and then the thread just gets derailed and becomes very negative.
Ok maybe I should say āhalf time I have clicked the rude button the person mentions/complains about their rude markā
I also see many other times people speak up about rude marks when it wasnāt me, so I canāt be the only one!
On other forums Iām on there is no rude button but youāre not allowed to publicly discuss moderation/removed posts/bans, so that helps keep the threads free from āwhy did this get removed? ā¦ this is not fair ā¦ i did nothing wrong ā¦ who was itā kind of stuff.
I understand that itās frustrating when you get an apparently unjustified rudeness point. And the very fact that you care about your rudeness level is an excellent sign that you are indeed a respectful and friendly BLF member.
However, while there is always a small amount of ānoiseā and illegitimate hits on the Rude! button, it is surprisingly free of wide-scale abuse. For example, I have an admin page that shows me the name and rudeness score of all the users that currently have points. Hereās where it stands now (names not shown for obvious reasons):
So there are currently 4 users that got Rude! hits whose points havenāt expired yet. Of those, there is obviously one huge outlier that I already talked to via PM about the problem and will continue to watch to see if changes are made. Two other users in that list made posts that I would also consider to be genuinely rude. And another user in that list participated in a public argument, which always makes you a target for people getting offended. So the current set of Rude! button points is spot-on.
The button in question is labeled Rude!. I had to call it something. But I think people tend to forget that the post on how to use the Rude! button defines rudeness as more than just the typical grumpy, insulting, foul-mouthed post that almost everyone would consider to be rude. Specifically, this rule is often forgotten:
The main BLF Rules also reiterate the same thing very clearly:
So this is where a lot of the Rude! hits come from. Even if the post and/or user is friendly, it is against the rules and considered as rude when somebody participates in an escalating argument or responds to a rude post. So please make a concerted effort to not respond publicly to rude posts. Just drop it, give the grumpy-insulting-foul-obscene user the cold shoulder, and move on, or change the subject with kitten pictures.
Thanks a lot to the vast majority of our users here that really do care about getting along and who are usually friendly and helpful to everyone.
ā¦or hit the Rude! button and let SB deal with it instead!
Iāve found that everyone truly has different opinions about almost everything. And everyone approaches life differently. Therefore, everyone deals with conflict differently as well. The Rude! button is there for those who wish to use it. And according to SB, it is being effective and not too much abused. If youād rather talk it out in the open, Iād personally say go for it! One of the beautiful things about BLF is that we do have the privilege (and responsibility) to self-moderate. But donāt get caught up in arguments, because those are against the rules, as SB reminded us all just a few posts ago. ^ Remember that āself moderateā means that you must āmoderateā your āselfā not others.